By Idon Rosales
“If they can do it, then I can do it better.”
This mantra, a relentless pursuit of excellence, fueled my childhood. I was a whirlwind of activity, striving for perfection in every endeavor. Seven-day workweeks were the norm; anything less felt like failure. Validation, the recognition of my achievements, was the oxygen I craved. It was as if my worth was solely defined by my accomplishments, a constant need to prove myself. Authenticity? Realness? These concepts were foreign, overshadowed by the relentless pursuit of being the best.
Adulthood brought a crash course in reality. Personal and academic struggles, each a unique storm, tested my resilience. Tears flowed, but productivity remained a constant. The world, I learned, didn’t pause for anyone’s emotional turmoil. This harsh realization forced me to adapt.
Then, during a casual conversation with friends, I was introduced to the liberating philosophy of “wa koi L” – a nonchalant dismissal of negativity and a defiant embrace of individuality. The phrase resonated deeply. It challenged the constant pressure I placed on myself to conform and excel. “Wa koi L” became my mantra – a shield against self-doubt and a reminder to let go of the noise and focus on my own path.
Facing rumors, badmouthing, throwing indirect comments and doubts in my intellect and skills? “Wa koi L.” Let them, let karma do its magic.
Battling negativity and sharp shooting side eyes? “Wa koi L.” Move forward.
Judged for being authentic and constantly looked down on because I don’t fit in what they called standard? “Wa koi L.” Their opinions are irrelevant.
“Wa koi L” is more than just a phrase; it’s a philosophy of self-acceptance and liberation. It’s about recognizing that your worth isn’t determined by external validation or the opinions of others. It’s about embracing your individuality, celebrating your quirks, and living life on your own terms.
So if you’re out there reading this column well…
“WA KOI LABOT.”
